Written by Esthefany Castillo
A few weeks ago my friend Eric came over to my place. We both had just gotten done with a long day of work, and despite only living a few blocks away from each other we barely have the time to kick it as often as we’d like. But you know how the saying goes, “It’s a celebration everytime we link up.” Even if it’s a low-key slumped kind of celebration over a six pack of Lagunitas, it’s still a celebration.
We caught up on life, spoke about work, got into a heated debate about whether it’s men or women who have the power, and throughout that debate spoke about our recent fuckeries with relationships. Dating is hard! That’s besides the point though.That night Eric shared with me a creative idea he’s had for a while now. I’ve known him since college and I’m now just realizing how creatively inclined he is. Beyond his good sense of fashion, through college he made music and kept a dope tumblr with a very clean aesthetic. It was one of those really organized worldly ones with a lot of white color schemes. He covered cars, international fashion, fine dine cuisines, and naked girls. A guy’s dream made visual.
“Can I run something by you?”
“What’s up?” I asked half paying attention. The night before I published a piece on my website that was generating a lot of momentum. I was doing my own marketing in between our conversations to make sure that I covered all my social media grounds within the 48 hours.
“I’ve been thinking about starting a podcast.”
I stopped myself mid-tweet. “What? That’s awesome!” I told him.
“Yeah?” he let out a big smile and then asked “Would you be into doing it with me? I feel like you have great ideas, a good voice, and I’ve known you for a while so we’ll be comfortable on the mic. Plus, anything we talk about we’ll have the female-male perspective.”
“Hmm, what are you thinking for it.”
“I honestly don’t know yet. I mean I have some ideas, but fear and my constant self doubt keep holding me back.”
“Oh nah, I know it’s scary but you just have to do it! Trust me on that.”
“Right, but I don’t even know where to start. I think about it almost every day and it stresses me out, you feel me? I have this idea in my head. I see it clearly and it’s frustrating not knowing how to go about it.”
“This right here. This conversation. Us, bouncing ideas back and forth is the start. I know a group of friends who have their own podcast I can connect you with. We can meet with them and see what’s up.”
Not too many days after that conversation, I was on twitter and saw the rapper Russ (@russdiemon) tweet: “ U can wait till u have connections/certain resources 2 start ur journey. Work w/ what you have & the rest will present itself.” It solidified for me just how important it is for us as artists, entrepreneurs, and people with creative visions in general to just take the first step. Beyond this tweet, Russ is consistent when it come to letting us know through his music no one’s going to do our work for us. It’s truly up to us to take that first step, be willing to make the inevitable mistakes, and learn about what works best for us along the way. Many of us as perfectionists get caught in making the perfect first move, and what I’ve learned from my journey is that no move is perfect. Every move we make, like in ball, is a shot that comes with a 50/50 chance of you making it. Imagine if Eric had let his own self-doubt creep in instead of taking his shot and spilling me his tea?
From one artist to another, I’m going to tell you this:
Your first move doesn't need to be perfect. It just need to be taken. Your intentions will unravel everything you need when the time is right
Time is MONEY -- when it comes to what you wanna do, you can't sit around waiting for someone to connect you, give you permission, or make things happen for you. You need to believe in yourself and your vision and go for it.
Reaching out to people for mentorship is great but people won't believe in you until you have set enough of your own things in motion. When you have something to put forth that's when they’ll want to get involved with you and your work.
You’re not alone in this. Experiencing the hustle firsthand, before you get that one connection that's gonna really set your work in motion, is a rite of passage for all of us.
Your success will come from you and your efforts. No one else’s.
About the Author
Esthefany Castillo is a Dominican-American writer/blogger here in NYC. She was born in the Dominican Republic, raised in the South Bronx, and is currently residing in Harlem. Esthefany is a free-spirited creative by nature. She's into different forms of art, some that she can actually make and others that she really enjoys and admire. Aside from wiring, Esthefany enjoys getting lost in music, picking her things up and traveling last minute, being a bad bitch and all the sass and self-love it entails, connecting intimately with friends especially when it's us "Milly Rock" passing the joint to our left, and all things zen like (trap) yoga, meditating, and spirituality.